Building Stepfamilies That Work

The Stepparent Survey (SPS)


What is the Stepparent Survey? 

The Stepfamily Stress Index (SSI) is a norm-referenced survey was designed to: 

a) identify specific factors causing stress in a particular stepfamily, so that

b) appropriate actions could be prescribed to relieve that stepfamily's stress.

 

Specifically, the SSI:

    a) measures the strength of a number of stressors that may be present in your stepfamily setting,  

    b) evaluates the extent to which these stressors are impacting you, and

    c) assesses how well a number of important stress-reducing resources are being used.

 

How do I complete it? 

1) Scroll to the start of the survey below. 

2) Answer each of the questions as indicated. 

3) When you have finished the last question, hit the “Submit” button to forward your answers for scoring.

4) Then ask your partner to (independently) complete the survey.

 

After we receive both of your completed SSI answers, we will:

    a) score them, and 

    b) send you an email that will tell you where you can view a detailed Interpretation of your SSI results.

 

Should my partner and I complete the SSI together? 

No. We prefer that you each complete the SSI independently, because the differences between your answers will help us to understand your family and circumstances much better.

 

How long will it take? 

Most people are able to complete the SSI within 20 to 30 minutes.


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Contact Information: This is where a link to your report will be sent.

Your name (first, last)   
Your partner's name (first, last)  
Your e-mail address  
Retype your e-mail address  

Definitions: Please use the following definitions throughout the questionnaire

Stepfamily: Any spousal union where one or both of the partners has a child, or children, from a previous relationship.

 

His kids: Children the male partner has had in a previous relationship or relationships.

 

Her kids: Children the female partner has had in a previous relationship or relationships.

 

Our kids: Children the couple has had together in the present relationship.  

 

 

Directions

There are four parts.  In all four parts, you simply select the correct answer, or the option that best fits your circumstances.  Please note that every item requires an answer.  Accordingly, select: "0" or "does not apply" or "not applicable" for items that do not pertain to your situation.

 

    Part 1:  asks for information about the membership of your stepfamily.  

    Part A:  looks at a number of specific stepfamily situations. [60 questions] 

    Part B:  focuses upon the way these situations impact you.  [40 questions]

    Part C:  examines the strategies you use in various situations.  [40 questions]

 

 

In total, there are 140 test items. 


 

Part 1: Stepfamily Membership

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Read each statement carefully and select the choice that fits you or your circumstances best.  Please answer all items.

 

The Couple:

 

Your gender
Your age

 

Your partner's gender
Your partner's age

  

Number of years living together as a stepfamily
Number of years married

 

The Children:

 

Number of "full-time" children living in your home at present

 

Number of "part-time" children living in your home at present

~~

 

Number of "his" children living (full-time) in your home at present

 

Number of "her" children living (full-time) in your home at present

 

Number of "our" children (i.e. those you have had together) living (full-time) in your home at present

~~

 

Number of "his" children living (part-time) in your home at present

 

Number of "her" children living (part-time) in your home at present

 

Number of "our" children (i.e. those you have had together) living (part-time) in your home at present

~~

 

Number of "his" children who live elsewhere (full-time)

 

Number of "her" children who live elsewhere (full-time)

 

Number of "our" children who live elsewhere (full-time)

 

 

Please Note:

For the following nine questions in this section, select all of the options that apply. 

To make multiple selections: 

1) Hold down the "control" key the entire time you are working on the next nine items

2) Where appropriate, select more than one answer for each question.

Tip: Clicking on an item that is already highlighted removes that selection.

 

The ages of "his" children living (full-time) in your home at present 

 

The ages of "her" children living (full-time) in your home at present 

 

The ages of "our" children living (full-time) in your home at present 

~~

 

The ages of "his" children living (part-time) in your home at present 

 

The ages of "her" children living (part-time) in your home at present 

 

The ages of "our" children living (part-time) in your home at present 

~~

 

The ages of "his" children living elsewhere (full-time)

 

The ages of "her" children living elsewhere (full-time)

 

The ages of "our" children living elsewhere (full-time)

 

It's OK to release the "control" key now. Thanks

 

Part A:  Situations

Read each statement carefully and select the choice that fits you or your circumstances best.  Please answer all items.

 

1.  At home I am expected to do too many different tasks in too little time.

 

2.  I feel that my family responsibilities are increasing.

 

3.  I am expected to perform tasks and duties that I have never had the opportunity to learn.

~~

 

4.  I find that I’m often having to deal with family concerns while at work.

 

5.  I have the resources I need to accomplish what needs to get done at home.

 

6.  I feel competent in my role as a parent/stepparent.

~~

7.  I am under tight deadlines at home.

 

8.  I wish that I had more help to deal with the demands placed on me at home.

 

9.  My family situation requires me to deal with several equally important areas at once.

~~

 

10.  I am expected to do more work than is reasonable.

 

11.  I feel that my family situation is progressing about as I hoped it would.

 

12.  I feel that I have the necessary skills and interests to manage with my family situation.

~~

 

13.  I am bored with my family situation.

 

14.  I feel I have a suitable level of responsibility in my family.

 

15.  I feel that my situation allows me to employ the skills and abilities I posses.

~~

 

16.  I feel my family has a good future.

 

17.  Within the family context, I am able to satisfy my needs for success and recognition.

 

18.  I feel that my skills and abilities are more than adequate to manage with my family. circumstances.

~~

 

19.  My family life provides opportunities for me to learn new skills.

 

20.  I have to perform tasks that are below my ability.

 

21.  My spouse provides me with useful feedback about the way I do things.

~~

 

22.  It is clear to me what I have to do to get the family to move forward.

 

23.  I am uncertain about what I am supposed to accomplish in my present family circumstances.

 

24.  When faced with several family-related tasks, I know which one should be done first.

~~

 

25.  I know where to begin when I am confronted with a new task or issue.

 

26.  My spouse asks for one thing, but really wants another.

 

27.  In the family setting, I understand how others expect me to behave, personally.

~~

 

28.  The priorities for my family are clear.

 

29.  Regarding the family, my spouse and I have a clear understanding of how I should spend my time.

 

30.  I know the basis upon which my spouse evaluates me in the things that I do with/for the family.

~~

 

31.  I feel conflict between what my spouse expects me to do and what I think is right or proper.

 

32.  I feel caught between factions in the family.

 

33.  I have several people telling me what to do.

~~

 

34.  I feel that I have a stake in the success of this family.

 

35.  I feel good about the job that I do as a parent in this family.

 

36.  People who are important to this family have conflicting ideas about what I should be doing.

~~

 

37.  I am proud of being a stepparent.

 

38.  Everyone in the family is clear about who is really in charge.

 

39.  I have divided loyalties in this family.

~~

 

40.  My being a member of this family has as much payoff for me as it does for the family.

 

41.  I feel that I deal with more people during a day of my family life than I prefer.

 

42.  I spend time concerned with the problems others in the family bring to me.

~~

 

43.  I am responsible for the welfare of the children in the family.

 

44.  My family looks to me for leadership.

 

45.  I have responsibilities for the activities of others in this family.

~~

 

46.  I worry about whether the kids will get things done properly.

 

47.  Members of this family are really hard to deal with.

 

48.  If I make a mistake in my role as a stepparent, the consequences for others can be pretty bad.

~~

 

49.  Being in this stepfamily demands that I handle angry people.

 

50.  I like the people living in this family.

 

51. Our home is very noisy.

~~

 

52. There is a great deal of conflict in our home.

 

53. Our home is characterized by high levels of aggression.

 

54. Our home is characterized by high levels of misbehaviour.

~~

 

55. There is a great deal of tension in our home.

 

56. Our home is characterized by high levels of unhappiness.

 

57.  I have an erratic schedule at home.

~~

58. There is a great deal of sadness in our home.

 

59.  At home I feel personally isolated.

 

60. Our home is characterized by high levels of distrust.

 

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Part B:  Impact

 

Read each statement carefully and select the choice that fits you or your circumstances best.  Please answer all items.

 

 

1.  I don’t seem to be able to get much done at home.

 

2.  Lately, I have been dreading going home.

 

3.  I am bored at home.

~~

 

4.  Lately, I find myself getting behind in the work that I need to do around the house.

 

5.  I’ve been having accidents at home, lately.

 

6.  The quality of my parenting/stepparenting is good.

~~

 

7.  Recently, I have been staying away from home.

 

8.  I find my home life interesting and/or exciting.

 

9.   I can concentrate on the things I need to at home.

~~

 

10.  At home, I tend to make errors or mistakes in the things I am doing.

 

11.  Lately, I am easily irritated.

 

12.  Lately, I have been depressed.

~~

 

13.  Lately, I have been feeling anxious.

 

14.  I have been happy lately.

 

15.  So many thoughts run through my head at night that I have trouble falling asleep.

~~

 

16.  Lately, I respond badly in situations that normally wouldn’t bother me.

 

17.  I find myself complaining about little things.

 

18.  Lately, I have been worrying.

~~

 

19.  I have a good sense of humour.

 

20.  Things are going about as they should.

 

21.  I wish I had more time to spend with close friends.

~~

 

22.  I quarrel with my spouse.

 

23.  I quarrel with my friends.

 

24.  My spouse and I are happy together.

~~

 

25.  Lately, I do things by myself instead of with other people.

 

26.  I quarrel with members of my family.

 

27.  Lately, my relationships with people are good.

~~

 

28.  I find that I need time to myself to work out my problems.

 

29.  I wish I had more time to spend by myself.

 

30.  I have been withdrawing from people lately.

~~

 

31.  I have unplanned weight gains.

 

32.  My eating habits are erratic.

 

33.  I find myself drinking a lot lately.

~~

 

34.  Lately, I have been tired.

 

35.  I have been feeling tense.

 

36.  I have trouble falling and staying asleep.

~~

 

37.  I have aches and pains that I cannot explain.

 

38.  I eat the wrong foods.

 

39.  I feel apathetic.

 

40.  I feel lethargic.

 

 

Part C:  Strategies

 

Read each statement carefully and select the choice that fits you or your circumstances best.  Please answer all items.

 

1.  When I need a vacation I take one.

 

2.  I am able to do what I want to do in my free time.

 

3.  On weekends, I spend time doing the things I most enjoy.

~~

 

4.  Lately, my main recreational activity is watching television.

 

5.  A lot of my free time is spent attending performances (e.g., sports, theater, movies, concerts, etc.).

 

6.  I spend a lot of my free time in participant activities (e.g., sports, music, painting, sewing, woodworking, etc.).

~~

 

7.  I spend a lot of my time in community activities (e.g., scouts, religious, school, local, government, etc.).

 

8.  I find engaging in recreational activities relaxing.

 

9.  I spend enough time in recreational activities to satisfy my needs.

~~

 

10.  I spend a lot of my free time on my hobbies.

 

11.  I am careful about my diet (e.g., eating regularly, in moderation and with good nutrition in mind).

 

12.  I get regular physical checkups.

~~

 

13.  I avoid excessive use of alcohol.

 

14.  I exercise regularly (at least 20 minutes most days).

 

15.  I practice “relaxation” techniques.

~~

 

16.  I get the sleep I need.

 

17.  I avoid consuming things that I know are unhealthy (e.g., coffee, tea, cigarettes, etc.)

 

18.  I engage in meditation.

~~

 

19.  I practice “deep breathing” exercises a few minutes several times each day.

 

20.  I set aside time to do the things I really enjoy.

 

21.  There is at least one person who is important to me who really values me.

~~

 

22.  I have help with tasks around the house.

 

23.  I have help with the important things that have to be done.

 

24.  There is at least one sympathetic person with whom I can discuss my concerns.

~~

 

25.  There is at least one sympathetic person with whom I can discuss my family problems.

 

26.  I feel I have at least one good friend I can count on.

 

27.  I feel loved.

~~

 

28.  There is a person with whom I feel really close.

 

29.  I have a circle of friends who value me.

 

30.  I gain personal benefit from participating in social groups (e.g., religious, political. professional organizations, etc.).

~~

 

31.  I am able to put my family concerns out of my mind when I go to work.

 

32.  I don’t feel that I am stuck in my current situation.

 

33.  I periodically re-examine or reorganize my way of doing things and my schedule.

~~

 

34.  I can establish priorities for the use of my time.

 

35.  Once they are set, I am able to stick to my priorities.

 

36.  I have techniques that I use to avoid being distracted.

~~

 

37.  I can identify the important elements of the problems I encounter.

 

38.  When faced with a problem, I use a systematic approach.

 

39.  When faced with the need to make a decision, I try to think through the consequences of choices I might make.

 

40.  I try to keep aware of important ways I behave and things I do.

 

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 All finished!

 Thanks for your time and attention.

 

 



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